19 days after the Whole30
I’m 2 and a half weeks post Whole30, and I’m struggling. I’ve settled into a kind of hybrid diet of bringing Whole30 meals to work and preparing Whole30 meals and snacks for myself at home, but kind of going off the rails at parties, weddings, restaurants and any other special event that isn’t held in my home or in the building where I work.
I don’t think it has a lot to do with a lack of self-control. I can be very self-controlled and proved this to myself when a group of adults who were visiting my office ordered a ton of Arthur Bryant’s barbecue and asked me to join them for lunch. I joined them, but I ate the stewed eggplant that I brought from home and wasn’t even sad about it. I knew that they would all feel heavy, bloated and tired in the afternoon, and just thinking about that feeling was enough to keep me away from the barbecue.
It does have to do with not wanting to be a stick in the mud. Not wanting to stress people out when I eat with them. My best friends had me over for dinner several times during my Whole30, and they were very accommodating, but I knew it was burdening to them. Of course I followed all of the Whole30 “tricks” to being a good dinner guest. Ate a small meal before I went over. Brought something delicious to contribute to the meal that was totally on plan. But still. When someone exerts effort to feed you, and you politely and sweetly explain to them that you can’t eat that food, and then you say, “don’t worry…I’ll have some of the kale salad that I brought and a cup of tea…” all of the things that they tell you to say to people…it’s still a bit of a bummer for the host. I know how they feel. When someone comes over to my house I want to take care of them, feed them, make them happy and loved. And when they resist my effort, it’s disconcerting. I feel high maintenance. I feel like I don’t deserve to be this finicky unless I have a great reason, like gluten will immediately make my head explode or dairy causes instant boils to erupt on my face.
The difference in energy level and mood is marked. It’s enough to send me fleeing back into the safe and vibrant arms of the Whole30, escaping to my refuge of easier mornings and predictable afternoons. But one time I saw this photo of Victoria Beckham, and it was her birthday, and after everyone sang Happy Birthday to her, they all had delicious cake and she nibbled on a small bowl of fresh fruit. And…I dunno. Victoria Beckham looks the way she does because of the diet decisions she makes on a day-to-day, minute-to-minute basis. (Side note: I am not making a judgement about the way that she looks one way or the other. This is more about the social effect her diet has on those around her.) But do you think it’s kind of a bummer for the other people at her party when she won’t even touch her cake? And does it make them feel bad or sad, like maybe they shouldn’t have the cake either, even though it’s a really special occasion and it’s probably like a $700 cake?
The very last day
This is day 30. When I started this plan in mid-September, October 15 seemed far away. Here we are! I am planning on sticking perfectly on-plan all day today and tomorrow breakfast and lunch. Then Alan and I have a little something planned…nothing too complicated, likely a nice meal at home and then a cocktail out. A few quick reflections… More detail to follow.
1) bad breath: I am pretty sure this has improved. At least, I don’t get the “bad breath” feeling/taste in my mouth any more.
2) acne: so-so. The over all quality of the skin on my face is smoother, more even, and more supple. But as far as blemishes go, through out the course of the month it’s ebbed and flowed. I wouldn’t say that I have less than normal. But it also isn’t as terrible as it’s been.
3) energy. TONS. I wake up great (and early), go to bed later, sustain an HIGH level of happy, peaceful energy throughout the day. Yes, I love life now that I don’t feel tired!
4) weight management. Yes yes yes. I haven’t been able to work out as hard or as regularly over the last 30 days as I do normally in my life. However, I’ve still lost 3 inches from my waist (!!!), 2 from my stomach, 1/2 from my hips, 1 1/4 from my thighs and 1/2 from my arms. Still no clue what I weighed before I started or now! I have a “before” photo (actually taken last May but fairly accurate) and a “now” photo and there is a visible difference ☺️
5) stomach pain/ digestion is very very good. Little to no stomach pain ever. Regular digestion. Feeling great. Feeling free!
Breakfast: none. Sorry whole30 I woke up with a screaming sore throat and no will to get out of bed.
Lunch: red curry left over from last night.
Dinner: Greek salad with Kalamata olives, artichoke hearts, romaine, spring mix, tomatoes, chicken, cucumber, red wine vinegar, oil.
Sunday, Oct 13 Day 28
Breakfast: sweet potato hash and two sunny side up eggs with a side of guac.
Lunch: chicken&apple sausage and green bell pepper sautéed in clarified butter.
Dinner: red curry (coconut milk based) with kale, sweet potato and pepper and shredded chicken.
Still sick w/ a very off appetite.
Breakfast: a few purple grapes and a little bit of coconut butter. Black coffee.
Lunch: a big bowl of spaghetti squash with homemade sauce and shrimp.
Dinner: mixed green salad with walnuts and apple slices, balsamic vinegar and olive oil.
I’m still sick and my appetite has been very off.
Breakfast: a small bunch of purple grapes.
Lunch: sautéed shrimp, carrot and raddish salad. A scoop of guac.
Dinner: a slice of salmon and a pint of raspberries. Later on in the evening I had a bowl of homemade tomato basil soup.
Breakfast: homemade tomato basil soup.
Lunch: spaghetti squash, shrimp, homemade tomato sauce.
Dinner: grilled salmon with field greens and a scoop of guac.
I’m sick so my appetite has been off, especially in the morning.
Breakfast: Kale sautéed in clarified butter with garlic and lemon juice, two eggs sunny side up and guac. Wow this tasted so incredible. While I was eating I was thinking that anyone who calls the Whole30 restrictive or bland just doesn’t get it! This was the most flavorful, delicious breakfast I’ve had. Black coffee.
Lunch: 1/2 acorn squash with clarifed butter and a chicken apple sausage. Peppermint tea.
Dinner: A little bit of spaghetti squash, meatballs and sauce. Banana and purple grapes.
Radishes and 1/2 of a chicken apple sausage.
Sautéed zucchini, meatballs in a tomato-jalapeño broth
1/2 of a roasted acorn squash, a scoop of coconut butter, a scoop of ghee and some coconut flakes, plus the other half of that chicken sausage.
Breakfast: a bunch of kale sautéed in olive oil and lemon juice. Chicken apple sausage.
Lunch: 3 homemade meatballs, sautéed zucchini and homemade sauce.
Dinner: mussels in tomato-bacon-jalapeño broth, zucchini.
Snack: kombucha and purple grapes with a drizzle of coconut butter and shredded coconut.